I’m having a hard time adjusting to the busyness level of a working mom. The funny thing is, my house is cleaner now than it was when I was at home all the time. Hahaha. Any time I have a day off, I spend it catching up on laundry and cleaning, and I’m learning how to manage my time better so I can have the dishes cleaned more regularly. I just wish there was more time for baking. We keep losing bananas because I don’t have time to make banana bread. It’s very sad.
Sarah doesn’t cry when we go to work very much anymore. Mostly just on days where she didn’t sleep well the night before. I think it was causing her too much stress that we’d leave, and then she’d frequently go to the sitter’s house. We asked our babysitter to keep them at home for a few days and see if that improved things, and it did. Now she still tells me every day that she doesn’t want me to go to work, but then she just gives me several hugs and kisses and then tells me goodbye. Andrea thinks it’s a game, so she does it, too.
Andrea is potty trained now. I did the same thing that I did with Sarah (http://theqcontinuing.wordpress.com/2011/01/30/how-to-potty-train/ & http://theqcontinuing.wordpress.com/2011/02/02/potty-training-part-2/). I sent Sarah to sleep over at her grandma’s for 2 nights. Man, did Andrea and I miss her! I was able to finagle a 5 day weekend, so Andrea and I just hung out in the kitchen. She was doing really well right away. She’d start to pee a little, but stop herself and go use the toilet. The second day, I got bored. I brought in the laptop so we could watch some movies, and she started having full blown accidents. I didn’t make the connection until the next day that she was too distracted by the TV to remember to go to the toilet. I finally realized on the third night, and when I turned off the movie she started using the toilet again. Sarah hung out in the kitchen with us after she got home and loved encouraging Andrea because every time Andrea used the toilet, everyone got a gummi bear. If you take out the time I wasted with movies, it took Andrea about 2 days to get from using diapers to being fully potty trained. She wears a pull up at night because she sleeps too heavily to wake up when she needs to go to the bathroom. We keep her potty chair in the bedroom, so if she does wake up, she can use the toilet. About half the time she wakes up for the potty chair, and half the time she uses the pull up.
Apparently I forgot to talk about Anthony and I seeing a therapist. The therapist used this book as a basis for our sessions:
I highly recommend it. Anthony took a marriage relations class a few semesters ago, and they talked about this author a lot. To be honest, I don’t remember a lot of the things we talked about or tools we learned. I should probably buy the book myself and have a refresher. But I do remember that she pointed out that when the other person does something, it has a meaning to us. For instance, I tell Anthony to quit rolling his eyes all the time. He says he doesn’t roll his eyes. We finally talked about the fact that he thinks X is rolling eyes, and I think Y is rolling eyes, and when he does Y I feel Z. So I’m glad that we know how to talk those things through now. I can’t give any concrete reasons why I feel happier about our marriage, but I know we’ve both felt a lot more content since the therapy and we communicate a lot better.
The other day we were at RC Willey. Our dryer broke, and our good friend Mick (At RC Willey on 4700 S in Kearns) is an appliance salesman there. He was able to get us a deal on a dryer and we got it delivered and hooked up the next day. Anthony was anxious because he had homework to do, and we had already gone to a few stores to try and find a cheap dryer while I waited for Mick to call us back with prices. By the time we got to RC Willey, Anthony was really frustrated with how much time we were taking. While he paid for the dryer, I was looking at living room sets. Our couch is broken in several places and our coffee table is scratched all over and looks like we left it outside for a year, so we’ve been talking about a need for new living room furniture. I found a set on sale so Anthony came to look at it, then started looking at couches and talking about which one we should get. I got frustrated because he had been so hurryhurryhurry about the whole thing, but when we were ready to leave he decided he had all the time in the world as long as it was something he wanted to do. Of course, this is how I interpreted it, and it didn’t help that I hadn’t eaten since who knows when so I was getting pretty cranky, too. I got pretty snippy with him, we both stomped out of the store with the girls in tow and didn’t talk for the drive home. After being in the house for about 2 minutes, I thought about how silly this whole argument was. I went to him in the office and apologized for being grouchy, he apologized for being grouchy, and then we were magically a happy couple again. I’m sharing this story because a few months ago, I wouldn’t have been satisfied until he had apologized for being grouchy, and rushing us, and then sitting on couches when I felt it was time to go, and then I would have sulked for an hour or two, and then I would have allowed us to be friends again. I keep thinking about how I was happy with both of us apologizing for our bad moods, and I didn’t need anything else. Look how I’m growing up!
Anthony has an interview for a promotion today. I really hope he gets it, because he’s not very happy with his current job. It’s underwriting loans over the phone, and it’s pretty high pressure. There are frequently people who are grouchy because they didn’t get the interest rate they feel they deserve, then he has to get them to believe that it will still benefit them (it usually will, and he doesn’t try too hard to convince people when he knows it’s not going to help their situation), then it’s an argument where he’s not allowed to sound upset… Anyway, last night for our Valentine’s Day date we went to the Olive Garden and practiced interview questions. I think he’ll do fantastically well.
I would like to take a minute to talk about how much I appreciate Anthony. He works so hard to improve himself, both at work and at school. He is such a great and loving dad and husband. Another thing I’ve noticed is that as our marriage satisfaction increases, so does both of our willingness to do things around the house without being asked, and when we are asked to do something, we’re a lot more quick at getting it done without reminders. Anthony is so fun and happy and just pleasant to be around. I’m grateful to be married to him and to love him more now than I did when we got married.
I have started a new hobby. KNITTING! I’ve kind of been teaching myself to knit for a while now, but I wasn’t super excited about it. With crocheting, I have a better idea of what the finished project will look like so I don’t mind so much when it takes a long time to finish. I’m a lot slower at knitting, so it was hard to get excited about a project. I made Anthony a scarf first. I didn’t expect him to wear it, mostly I was practicing my tension and things. In all the time I’ve known Anthony, he has never worn a scarf and I assumed it was because he doesn’t like them. I tried to make it as manly as possible so he’d like it if he chose to wear it. (I think crocheting looks especially feminine for some reason, and I assumed he felt that wearing anything like a scarf would be too girly. I have no idea why I thought that, since he has never implied anything of the sort.) So I used Caron Simply Soft yarn in Bone and Chocolate. I used 1 strand of each color and just knit 3, purled 3 a scarf. He really liked it and wears it frequently. Every time he puts it on, I giggle because it makes me feel good that I made something he likes. It also makes me feel like I’m taking care of him when he puts it on because I’m keeping him warm.
I felt so good about the way that scarf turned out, I finally decided to make a skirt for Andrea out of a skein of yarn I bought specifically for that purpose. I started it 3 times before I felt like I knew what I was doing. I used this pattern: http://www.bernat.com/pattern.php?PID=4914 and the yarn pictured. I used too big of needles, because that’s what I had, so the skirt ended up way too big and I gave it to Sarah instead, then made a skirt for Andrea out of some other yarn that I’ve had for a few years but didn’t know what to do with it. It was too cute to just double crochet a scarf or something, I wanted to use it for a special project. Both skirts turned out really cute. Sarah wore her’s for a day, then pulled a thread on it and now she won’t put it back on. Andrea put her’s on, flipped her hips a little to watch the ruffles move, and then said with a super cheerful and adorable voice, “I don’t yike it!” I couldn’t stop laughing. But don’t worry, I will MAKE them wear them!
As soon as I find the cable to connect my phone to the computer, I will post pictures of my projects. But here is one I will share now:
My beautiful and wonderful friends, Krys and Michael, were finally able to adopt a little boy. His name is Bennett, and he is adorable! I made the blanket for her, and I don’t mean to brag but I think it turned out pretty nice. Not as nice as a baby, but still. It even matches his room!
They need some help with the adoption fees, so if you are able, please make a donation to help them out. http://adopttogether.org/krychael/